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Why do I keep repeating the same mistakes?

This is a question that a lot of people ask themselves, very often the same people seem to have some kind of bad luck. A black cloud hanging over them as they walk through life. Maybe some people are just victims of bad luck, or maybe they keep getting bad results by carrying on applying the same strategies over and over again without them being conscious about it.

 

Let me give you a scenario;

 

Rose, 45 years old, is about to divorce her third husband. Their relationship has been toxic almost since they got married. She has now discovered that not only did her husband abuse her, he also cheated on her nad having several affairs with other women.

The story is almost identical with her two previous marriages. Now she keeps pounding herself asking herself "Why". Why always her? All men are dogs etc..

 

What we see here is a pattern. Since we know that all men arent bad or mean we cant really blame poor Rose`s misfortune on that. "She just havent met the right guy" is possible, but maybe she did and she "friendzoned" him, thats more likely, right?

Her statement "Why does this always happen to me" however is interesting. If Rose, herself, belive that this always happens to her, could it be that it has something with her beliefs about her own worth is playing a part here? And maybe she is repeating a pattern?

 

 

As humans we are survivors, already as young children we adapt to situations as they come with one goal, survival. We pick up strategies along the way, based on how we managed situations before. Maybe Rose`s husbands reminded her brain of some person from earlier in life that she needed in one way or another, and maybe therefor she was attracted now to these men?

 

Rose is not stupid, not in any way, neither does she have herself to blame. Noone deserves to be mistreated or abused. However she is probably unaware of why she chose those men. As I see it, her subconscious probably played a huge part of making that decision.

 

Is there any help then for men and women experiencing what our "Rose" is experiencing? Or, for getting rid of any other bad strategies that we might have picked up in life? 

 

Of, course there is. 

Thats why we have therapy. I mostly use hypnotherapy myself combined with tools from NLP and some other forms of therapies when working with such things. It is kind of individual, I belive, what form of therapy that will help you, but rest assure -there is help to get.

I prefer Hypnotherapy and NLP since I belive it shows fast progress in the clients needs. If you feel limited in your life, not living at your full capability please find whatever kind of therapy that you prefer and get help. 

Life is too precious, and you are too valuable to waste any time.

 

Have a great day.

 

(This post contains only my personal view upon things and is not to be seen as "perfect science")

 

//Sara